It's a comment I get asked fairly frequently. I don't think it's people being critical but rather people not understanding why after 21 months I might still breastfeed my child.
Most days M asks for “mork” when she wakes up in the morning and at some point in the hour between her coming home from nursery and going to bed. At weekends, when I am with her more, or when she is unwell she wants to nurse more often. At times this is annoying, other times it is lovely.
So it's just for comfort then?
When people ask this I wonder if they mean hers or mine. Yes it is comforting for us both, but most of the benefits to newborns or milk continue as long as you nurse, and some increase. I am convinced that she and I have been ill less often and less seriously because of our breastfeeding relationship. At 6am in the morning I suspect her reason is hunger and mine is so I can lean back with my eyes closed for a little longer while M has some milk.
When are you going to stop?
My daughter will often ask for “mork”, but if it is getting close to bed time and she hasn't had any I will offer her some. She gets super excited. Why would I stop giving her something that costs me nothing, is good for her and is something she enjoys?
There are some occasions when it annoys me eg when she comes over takes 2 sips runs off, runs back and repeats. There are times when I say “no” like when she was pulling my dress down when we were at the vets in the consulting room. She throws a tantrum. She is very good at throwing tantrums and regularly throws them throughout the day. To force her to wean would involve a lot of tantrums. Why would I put her or I through that?
For every one time I have been fed up with breastfeeding there have been another 3 when I have been grateful that I still am including when she has been injured and nursing her stopped the tears (and in the case of a badly cut tongue the blood too).
If breastfeeding is no longer right for you then stop, but please don't stop because of the influence of people who think you should only breastfeed a child under 6 months.
Are you still going to breastfeed her when she's at school?
Children who are allowed to self wean from the breast do so at different ages. My daughter isn't yet 2. She wont start school for another 3 years. Since she was born she has grown from a dependent tiny ball who needed my help for everything to an independent, confident child who tries to do everything herself. Who knows what she will be like in another 2 years. Basically they are implying that my daughter will never wean, this is rubbish.
Breastfeeding is the one thing that I can be truly proud of as a mum.
I let my daughter watch too much TV.
I don't always give her healthy food.
Sometimes I can't be bothered to play with her.
I'm rubbish at brushing her teeth and cutting her nails
But for nearly 6 months I exclusively nourished my baby with my milk.
For a further 15 months I have supported and comforted her through breastfeeding.
One day M will no longer want mummy milk. It may happen quickly, it may happen slowly (there are times already when she says “no” to it). I'm in no rush. I know it will be hard on me and I probably wont be ready, but it wont be hard on her, because it will be her choice. And that's my choice.
|Poorly girly with Hand, Foot & Mouth being comforted by Breastfeeding|
Thank you for reading my 3rd and final post for the Keep Britain Breastfeeding scavenger hunt. Today's topic was “Breastfeeding Beyond a Year” and the final day tomorrow is “Dispelling Breastfeeding Myths”. A list of all the blog posts is available on the main blog as well as details of all the prizes www.keepbritainbreastfeeding.co.uk The competition is open until Friday 5th July so you have plenty of time to collect the 50 points required for the main prize.
Lots of blogs are taking part and here are just a few of them:
Life, Love and Living with Boys
A Baby on Board
In the Play Room
Red Rose Mummy
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You can find a range of nursing bra's, tops and other products.
Breastvest are offering a different coupon code each day follow them on twitter (@breastvest) to find out today's code. These handy vests are designed to be worn underneath clothes and provide tummy protection and easy boob access when you lift your top up
You can get 20% off the Cantaloop nursing bra with the code "ukbfw20" until 10th July 2013 here
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Finally (and with no mention of breasts) you can get a fab display shelf for books for £10.80 instead of £13 by buying through this page Big Book Little Book Cardboard Box
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